This possibly is going to be one of the hardest posts that I will have to do

Amberlyn FettThis possibly is going to be one of the hardest posts that I will have to do….as most of you know my daughter Amberlyn Fett had been sick since August from complications of her double lung transplant.

In August she was told that she was going through rejection but there were things that they could do to maybe stop it.  Unfortunately it didn’t work. She has been in and out of the hospital since then.  On Sunday after only being home for 2 days from her last hospitalization she told me to call 911 and she was rushed to the hospital once again.  Each time we have had to go back to the hospital it just broke her spirit even more.  Looking back I can see now that she knew already what was fixing to happen but did not want to worry ME.  She was so ill this time that once again they had to put her in ICU and intubate her.  It broke my heart to see her spirit broken.  She had already started to withdraw from things that she loved, eating, talking to family and just wanted to sleep.  She had talked to me of things that  she wanted me to remember.  Telling me that she didn’t want me to blame myself for anything that was about to come, that it was in God’s hands and that she loved me.  I don’t know about any other parents out there but hearing your child say those words can spark terror in you heart.

This morning at 7:30am my precious daughter took her last breath and became an official Angel for her Lord.  She was surrounded by family and her best friend Eddie Jones.  I want to thank my Mom, Aunt Diane & Uncle Richard, my son Phillip, Eddie, Darren (her Dad) and Kristian (her Dad’s sister) for helping me to cope with this incredible loss that I have.  Eddie you were a rock for our family and I am so lucky to have you in our lives.  I know that Amberlyn was thankful that you were there by her side.  Darren I am glad that you got to be here.  I am sorry that it was under these circustances thou.

Mom and Phillip you are my rocks right now.  There are no words that can even begin to explain how much you mean to me.  You have been so protective, loving and supportive of me these past few days.  I know that I am not the only one in pain and all I can say is as long as we have each other we will get through this and will carry on Amberlyn’s memory.  I love you both soooo much.

Amberlyn did not want a funeral, she wanted to be cremated and her ashes spread at the beach.  We will have a memorial to be determined at a later date to celebrate her life.  Amberlyn did request that instead of flowers that donations be made to:

Amber’s Angels
Po Box 1220
Dripping Srpings, Tx  78620
http://www.ambers-angels.org/donate/

(a 501c3 organization)

 

Fett Family Fund
c/o Cattleman’s National Bank
Account #3136760
PO Box 1243
Dripping Springs, Tx 78620

(the bereavement fund for the family)

Comments

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=646846502 Grant K Norwood

    Amberlyn was a wonderful friend, and an exceptional example of strength and selflessness for all of us, even during the most difficult struggles. I feel very lucky for the time I got to spend with her, and I’m going to miss her so very much.

    Debbie wanted me to let everybody know that there *will* be gift bags this holiday season. We all know that Amberlyn would want her memory to be carried on with the organization to which she dedicated herself, and so Amber’s Angels must continue to fulfill it’s mission of supporting children who are ill.

    More info to come on that, so please come back to http://www.ambers-angels.org often. In lieu of flowers for Amberlyn, please donate generously to Amber’s Angels at http://www.ambers-angels.org/donate/.

  • Fred

    I’m sorry to hear the news of her passing.  I never got the chance to meet her but Grant was good enough to tell me about her.  Heaven can only be better now with her there.  It would be good to continue with ambers-angels.org to carry on her memory.  May God comfort all of her family and friends and let them know that she is home.

  • Jkish1

    I am so deeply sorry to hear about this.  She is truly an angel and has made a lasting impression on many on earth. 

  • Loxy Passmore

    The world is a better place because Amberlyn made it her work to make it so. She touched so many lives while she was on earth and her work will continue to make a difference long after her first flight in heaven.  Amberlyn is a new angel in heaven yet we all recognize she was one here on earth for 22 years.  God bless your wonderful family and I trust in the Lord to provide you strength comfort today and in the future.   Loxy P.

  • Deacon Dan Lupo

    Mama, no one had more strength or courage than Amber (except maybe you). No one will miss her more than you. But we will all miss her, darling precious Amber. May God’s grace help you grieve well, Mama, and when it’s time, begin to heal. My prayer for all of us left to mourn Amber’s passing is that we go often to the place in our hearts that Amber touched and transformed, and be nourished by the joy she left with us, the incredible faith she maintained and passed on to all of us, the beauty of her smile and the loveliness of her soul that she imparted to all who knew her. I’ll tell you what: when it’s our turn to rejoice in the glorious presence of Jesus our Lord, I am CERTAIN that peeking out from behind his dazzing white robes will be Amber, her smile glowing, her eyes sparkling, her breathing so normal and easy – no scars, no tears, only pure, perfect Amber, as she was made and meant to be. Alleluia that Jesus defeated sin and evil and allowed Amber to conquer the limits of this world, so she can dance and sing in the next.

  • Tracy 707

    Amber is so happy right now.  She is with Jesus, and what a powerful gift of peace that brings.  I can imagine she is walking by the river of life, greeting friends and family that passed on before her, laughing, no pain, no sorrow.  Just surrounded by an abundance of love and sense of well-being.  One day you will see her again.  She is not lost, she is found.  Missing her on this earth will be difficult, but with the help and grace of God, you can get through it.  God bless and keep you until you meet with her again.

  • BBZilar

    Mama Fett, Phillip & Family,
    Please accept our deepest condolences for the loss of your little angel Amber.  I am sorry for your loss.  Please also call my wife & I if you should need anything…we are at your service.  I am certain that Amber’s legacy will continue to grow and those that knew her will miss her…and those that didn’t get to know her, will know of her and be warmed by her grace.

    Chaplain Bill B. Zilar
    Manchaca Fire/Rescue
    bbzilar@ymail.com
    (512) 450-8262

  • Kim Kindig

    We are so sorry for your loss and you are in our prayers.
    The Kindig Family

  • Tabitha Mcfall-Ray

    There are few people that touch as many lives in the way that Amberlyn did. She had a courage and strength that most of us will never know. Her Faith was so strong. I will never forget your beautiful girl Debbie. I am so blessed to have known her. 

  • Louie

    My thoughts and prayers to your family.  Amber Lynn brought I smile to my face every time I saw her.  I will always remember the confidence she showed in ME, even though she was the one sick in the hospital.  She always looked out for others.  She is a precious Angel. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/tsookchan Tamara Musick Sookchan

    God looked around His garden and found an empty place. He then looked down upon the earth and saw your tired face. He put His arms around you and lifted you to rest. God’s garden must be beautiful. He only takes the best.
    He knew that you were suffering. He knew you were in pain. He knew that you would never get well on earth again. He saw the road getting rough and the hills were hard to climb. So He closed your weary eyelids and whispered, “Peace be thine”.
    It broke our hearts to lose you but you didn’t go alone. Part of us went with you the day God took you home. If tears could build a stairway and heartaches make a lane, We’d walk a path to heaven to be with you again.

  • Bsaldana

    I am so sorry for your loss and the vacancy left in your heart and soul. Your love and devotion to Amberlyn was obvious to all that knew you both. She will be missed terribly by all that knew her. Her sweet smile, infectious laugh and gratitude for her caregivers. I know she has the peace and love of Christ now and she will live on through your good works with her charity. God bless. –Barbara Saldana, R.N. University Hospital

  • Laurie Smith

    I am so very sorry for your loss…she was an inspiration to Evan & our family.  Kirk & Laurie Smith

  • Vicki Frampton

    I am so sorry to hear about Amberlyn’s decline the last fewmonths. I remember when she and Phillip came into the office to visit and play, sweetest kids. Know that you have been in our hearts, and Darren has kept us informed of her progress – I have also watch her Blogs. You have our deepest sympathy.
    Steve & Vicki Frampton

  • DorRae Stevens

    There are no words, but there are sweet memories of Amberlyn that will live on, She is an angle and we were blessed to have her here for a while. Our prayers are and will be with you.

  • Sophie Perkins

    My heart is overwhelmed with sorrow and sympathy for you and your family.  I know that Amber is in a better place and HE does not make mistakes.  I met Amberlyn April 2010, when she volunteered for The Prom Shop Project.  Amberlyn and her mom were the first two people to show up to the event and stayed until we packed up over 600 dresses.  Even when she was tired, she did not sit down or take a break, she smiled and kept going. Although I’ve only met Amberlyn once, her positive attitude, entergetic  spirit still remains a constant in all things that she has done in the community.   I pray that her legacy continues to influence all of our lives.
    May the Lord continue to bless you and your family.

  • Sjdailey4

    A mutual friend of ours, Karen Klumpp, just sent me this link to Amberlyn’s story. My daughter is collecting toys this Christmas to deliver to Children’s Medical Center and Karen thought I might like to read about your daughter. What a beautiful, caring child you raised. I am so sorry for your loss and will definitely hug my daughter a little tighter tonight. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. 

  • Claudia McWhorter

    I was shocked to read of Amberlyn’s passing and overwhelmed with sadness. From the minute I met her, I knew she was a special person and so inspiring! My best to you, Deb, know that you raised an incredible young lady and she will be missed.

  • http://profiles.yahoo.com/u/O42GAQS4FXC3F6BLNYH3QX2AC4 DavidC

    I recently lost my Grandpa and I can relate to the emotional roller coaster that Mama Fett went through. You have signs of recovery then signs of declining health but all you want is for everything to just be okay. My Grandpa, although sad and still difficult to cope with, lived a full life and to hear that Amberlyn passed away in almost the same fashion as my Grandpa really breaks my heart. Im glad that she had God with her the whole way through. See you real soon Amberlyn. I know we never met but we will soon.